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What Works for Me…Pastoral Tip

by Pastor Dave Livermore, President of the Gulf States Conference

You’re up late, your kids have been in bed since 8:00 PM, an hour ago your wife said good night to you and went upstairs to go to sleep. You’ve been reading your Bible searching for a text to speak to you. Nothing really jumps out at this time. Your mind wanders. You fight it by turning on the TV, by now its quite late nothing really interests you. You turn on your computer, and you know exactly what interests you at this time of night. Your Bible is still sitting right next to you, but something else is driving you. You go online, your breathing is quickening, you listen carefully to make sure you don’t hear anyone from your family stirring. You type into Google: XXX or Porn. Millions of hits come up, you fall hard, you go deep into your private addiction. Your Bible, is still sitting next to you.

One survey says that fifty percent of us pastors visited a porn site in the last month. We wonder why the Gospel is impotent, our preaching boring, our spiritual life anemic. We have allowed the evil one to get his hands on us and it’s a slow spiritual suicide. There is hope though, into the darkness comes a website that speaks boldly against this cancer. If you got the problem, get help. Because sooner than later, this will cost you your ministry and maybe your marriage. www.purefreedom.com

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What Works for Me…Pastoral Tip

by Pastor Aaron Payne, Chaplain at Columbia Adventist Academy

After sitting down and talking for a while about the youth’s problem I will bring our conversation around to overcoming the addiction. Usually if a young person has come to talk to me it is because they truly want to break free from this habit. I will ask them to do 4 things.

1. Recognize what times and situation they are tempted the most and avoid those times and places. Ex. Don’t stay up late on the internet.

2. When they are tempted have a Bible verse to quote and claim in the face of the temptation. A few verses I have suggested are Is.41:10,13, or Phil. 4:13. I teach them how to claim a promise since many are unfamiliar with doing this.

3. Find an accountability partner. Of course this person needs to be a person who has a strong walk with Jesus, is trustworthy, and does not share the same problem.

4. Ask them to commit to reading a book called “Every Young Man’s Battle” by Stephen Arterburn, assuming I am dealing with a young man. There is also a book out there for young ladies, “Every Young Woman’s Battle“.

Only after they have taken these steps will I be willing to anoint them, asking for healing and victory. I find that if I anoint them first they may not follow through with the first four steps.

Finally I will communicate to the parents (with permission from the young person) and ask them to change their internet server to integrity online, which is a pre-filtered server. There should also be multiple planned follow ups.

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What Works for Me…Pastoral Tip

by Pastor Matthew Gamble who served for 18 years as an Adventist Pastor

Satan has a great way of sneaking this stuff into our lives at an early age to get us hooked in hopes to warp our sense of intimacy, love, and sex. For me pornography/lust came in at the age of 7. With the material now so easily accessible on the internet truly Satan is going to succeed in getting more people trapped in his world wide web. Or is he?

In helping people with this addiction, I have found several resources to be invaluable. I will list them below:

1. XXX Church is a Christian based ministry that is seeking to help people with addiction to pornography. They provide free software that can be downloaded onto your computer that will provide accountability for you while you surf the internet. If any questionable sights are viewed, the addresses will be sent to your accountability partners.

2. Prodigals International offers training and materials to help local churches establish effective ministries to sexual addicts and their spouses. The director is a good friend of mine and has recently linked up with researchers from Loma Linda University as well as the General Conference to see how these materials can be applied in Adventist churches nationwide.

3. Sexaholics Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength, and hope with each other that they may solve their common problem and help others to recover.

4. Read the books, “Every Man’s Battle” by Stephen Arterburn and “Not Even a Hint” by Joshua Harris.

Above all else I encourage people to recognize that we are more than conquerors through Christ. As we accept His gift of victory on a daily basis and learn to trust Him over self, we WILL have the victory.

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What Works for Me – The Art of Appeal

Best Practices Webinar with Shawn Boonstra from NAD Adventist on Vimeo.

On Tuesday, February 18, 2014, the NAD held a Ministerial Best Practices Webinar presentation by Shawn Boonstra entitled, “The Art of the Appeal”.

Description: Shawn discussed the art of working with an audience over time to create the best possible environment for a positive response to the gospel. He briefly touched on the history of the modern altar call, and discussed an important understanding how appeals work in the minds and hearts of hearers. He also discussed the difference between persuasion and appeal, as well as gave practical suggestions that help create a positive environment for response.

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What Works For Me In – Paperless Preaching

by Dan MartellaDanMartella
Source: NAD Ministerial

Through the years I have admired pastors who can preach without notes. I have marveled at their ability to deliver powerful, heartfelt, life-changing messages without having to be propped up by a stack of papers. Given my personal wiring, I sadly concluded that paperless preaching was forever beyond my reach.

Then one Friday afternoon as I reviewed my sermon notes, I suddenly realized that the message was so well written that I could remember it all – the sequence of introduction, points, stories, and applications. The next day when I stepped out of my pulpit and simply shared the message from my heart, something powerful happened – The freedom, the connection with my congregation, the interactivity, and the authenticity of the witness shared absolutely hooked me.

Let me share with you 10 points for paperless preaching that have worked well for me since that memorable Sabbath four years ago: Continure Reading

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What Works For Me – Top Articles of the Last 12 Months

If you missed them you might want to read them now. Here are the top 5 most viewed stories in the What Works For Me category during the past year. Please add your additional comments at the end of any of these posts–

  1. What Works For Me In… Improving the Nominating Committee Process
  2. What Works For Me in… Having a Useful Church Newsletter or e-newsletter
  3. What Works For Me in… Finding Sources of Sermon Illustrations
  4. What Works for Me in…Three Simple Steps For Overcoming Any Sin
  5. What Works for Me in…Tips for Hospital Visits

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H.K.W.H.T.A – Biblical Advice for Men

by Kirk Cameron

  1. The heart of the problem is a problem of the heart. Selfishness is the heart of problems in marriage.
  2. Without the Holy Spirit we are incapable. You can go to all the marriage seminars you want, learn all the techniques and tactics, etc. but none of those things will really be successful unless you let the Holy Spirit come into your heart.
  3. Instead of focusing on changing your spouse- their flaws or weaknesses- or the way(s) they’ve changed for the worse, focus on changing yourself. Give your spouse a new you.

For husbands, remember- “My Wife Rocks. Our marriage is worth fighting for. I will… spend time with her, study her, honor her, protect her, open up to her, pray with her.”

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What Works for Me in – Reconnecting Ministry

About a million people who once worshipped in an Adventist church in  North America have quit attending on a regular basis. There are a million unique stories why they left. The good news is, over 100,000 Adventists  have reconnected during the past five years! We coordinate that ministry in North America and encourage it worldwide through our training events, resources and coaching services. The Church can have all kinds of evangelistic initiatives to get new people in the front door, but if the back door is swinging wide open, we have a retention problem.  If this is true in your congregation, conference, union or division, let us help you with a ministry of friends reaching friends who have taken a break from active church attendance.  To find out more contact Paul Richardson  or  Click Here

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What Works for Me in…Three Simple Steps For Overcoming Any Sin

We are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. – Romans 8:37

Whoever you are, whatever your struggles and temptations may be, sweet victory is yours for the taking.

Right now!

All you need do is appreciate, appropriate and act upon what already belongs to you in the person of Jesus Christ. You are guaranteed success in whatever battle you may be fighting, not because you are sufficient for the battle—you are not!—but because there are massively powerful provisions at your fingertips, in Christ.

Here are three simple steps that will release you from the grip of even the most besetting sin.

1. Name the Thing

Honesty is the precursor to victory.

Before God, and in your own conscience, call your sin exactly what it is. Cease all explanations and excuses. Just get on your knees and confess that this thing is absolutely opposed to God’s character, that it is hurting others and destroying you. Verbalizing the truth of the matter is vitally necessary. Doing so awakens a deeper sensitivity and places your heart in an honest position before God and before yourself.

Moses instructed Israel, “It shall be, when he is guilty in any of these matters, that he shall confess that he has sinned in that thing” (Leviticus 5:5).

Confess “that thing,” the specific “thing,” for exactly what it is, without reserve and without any kind of justification.

David gave us an example of total transparency before God:

I acknowledged my sin to You, and my iniquity I have not hidden. I said, ‘I will confess my transgressions to the LORD,’ and You forgave the iniquity of my sin (Psalm 32:5).

Stop hiding!

Stop lying!

Stop explaining!

Simply tell the truth.

2. Decide and Act Against the Thing

There lies within you a God-given power to READ MORE

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What Works for Me in…Tips for Hospital Visits

What do you say or do when you visit someone in the hospital? How can you truly listen then point them to Jesus? Here are some tips from Pastor Miles Bankston, a pastor in the Texas Conference of Seventh-day Adventists.

I had to put together a quick and easy assessment tool for practical use while I was in a year of CPE for the US Army Chaplaincy. We had to come up with a way to get to the heart of the Spiritual Matter in 10 minutes of less in a hospital visit. This assessment tool forced me to really have some focused direction with a patient and I wish I would have had this while I was pastoring in TX. I use it all the time with people and they are not aware of it, but it helps me to keep on track and keep them on track. I offer it as a tool for any one of you pastors (elders or ministry workers) and hope it can benefit you in your ministry counseling.

THE FIVE F’s

  1. Facts- Can you tell me a little of the story that brought you here?
  2. Family- Can you tell me a little about your family. ( You want to know do they have family or a friend support system)
  3. Feeling- Can you tell me how you are feeling? (What is their primary emotion, anger, depression, grief, frustration, etc?)
  4. Faith- How does your faith help you or hurt you in times like this? ( You want to assess where their faith is, or do they practice their faith, Bible Reading, Prayer, Worship, where is their walk with God?)
  5. Future- Can you tell me what the future looks like down the road? ( You want to know do they have a future in site or does it look bleak and dark)

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