Some parents put such a high priority on their children that they make the mistake of removing everything from their lives that doesn’t directly benefit the kids. Sports, music, clubs, and activities fill the schedule, consuming every minute of their time. One dad said, “Judy and I felt stressed because of the busyness, but continued to press on, believing that we were doing the right thing. We then realized the problem we were creating in our children. They were becoming more selfish and we were encouraging it.” Take a moment and look at your life. If children are at the center, what are you teaching them? One way to help our children is to teach them that they aren’t the center of the universe, God is. In fact, as a family we must be serving, sharing, and giving to others. After all, it was Jesus who said, “Seek first the Kingdom of God and all these things will be added to you.” Matthew 6:33. When parents model sacrifice, children learn to care for others beside themselves. Take time in your family life to show hospitality to others, serve at church or in the community, pray for others, or even save up and give money to someone in need. Children learn a tremendous amount from these special family experiences, but most importantly, they learn to give up a little of their own selfishness, a lesson that will last forever.
“Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes, In You and Your Kids.” Dr. Scoot Turansky & Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.